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Recovering From a Caesarean

Pregnancy PicWhether you plan to have your baby by caesarean or have had to have surgery due to a medical issue the recovery process can be slow. Doctors say it takes four weeks before you can do anything strenuous, such as: exercise, do heavy lifting, or laundry even.

How are you going going to get through those weeks? With patience and help. If your parents and in-laws are able to help the problem almost solves itself. You should have someone to help you get around, do the daily things you won’t be able to do, and help to get you adjusted to your new life as a mother.If you find yourself in a situation where you have no support system, what can you do?

Ask your nurses or doctor for references to local government or programs designed to help women. Through these programs you will be connected to a community of women who are willing and able to help you get back on your feet. There’s the New Parent’s of Central Frontenac Community Services Corporation – 613-376-6477
Their offices are o.pen Monday to Friday 8:30am to 4:30pm.

Personal Care help from Canadian Red Cross, Kingston & Quinte – 1-866-991-9956
Their offices are open Monday to Friday from 8:30am to 4:30pm.

There is also the KFL&A Public Health, Sexual Health Clinic, that can help with public health issues. You can contact their offices at,  613-549-1232, their offices are open 24/7.

Additionally there is the One Parent Families Association of Canada that has resources for single parent families too. You can reach them at 613-389-5607  to leave message.


Sleeping BabyNew born babies cry, some more than others, but that is their only means of communication. It doesn’t mean that you are necessarily doing anything wrong, it’s just how they let you know they’re uncomfortable. These are the main reasons your baby is crying: hungry, dirty diaper, tired, wants to be held, gas or tummy troubles, needs to burp, feeling too hot or cold, teething, wants more or less stimulation, or they’re not feeling well.

Ask yourself if you have tried to satisfy any of these problems. If it’s hunger your baby will eat once they are less distressed and you introduce the breast or bottle. Newborns tend to eat on a cycle of every  hour and fifteen minutes. As long as it’s once every one-two hours. If you notice your baby sucking in their sleep, this is a clear sign that they are hungry, other signs are stirring and stretching.

After the baby has fed try to burp them. Don’t give up burping your baby, if they don’t burp after they eat the gas will cause tummy trouble and crying. Just rub the back and pat until your baby burps.

A dirty diaper simply needs to be changed and then your baby would probably enjoy a good cuddling. If snuggling with your baby calms them down then it was your presence they wanted, but make sure you’re not turning into a helicopter mother who is always standing over her baby. They need some alone time too. Tired babies need their sleep, try rocking, swaddling, singing, swinging, anything you have noticed calms them down, do this and they will fall asleep.

Always be aware of the temperature of your rooms and your newborn. Babies should dress for the season. If it’s a hot summers day put the baby in a summer outfit. If it’s a cold winter day dress your baby warmly. Just be sure that you’re not going overboard. If after you dress your baby a few minutes later they crying but it’s not from hunger or dirty diapers, it could be you’ve under or over dressed them.

Teething will always cause crying, it’s a painful experience. The best thing to do for your baby is to buy leak proof, PSB free teething rings, or freeze a damp facecloth for your baby to munch on. This will numb the gums naturally and provide some relief. Over the counter medicines that are advertised as teething aids may contain chemicals that your baby will become used to and become useless the more you use them. Research natural remedies such as Camilia.

If you check your baby and they are hotter than normal take their temperature under the arm in the armpit for the most reliable temperature. Any temperature in a baby less than six months old that is more than 93 degrees or more you should take the baby to see a doctor. Newborns do not typically get fevers, so if your new born has one take them immediately to see your pediatrician.

If you have checked all of the above and the baby is still crying, what should you do? Just relax, the baby is just working through something. It can be hard to listen to, but if you’ve taken care of them then you have done your job. If you feel that it is upsetting you, it’s okay to walk away and take a breather. You’re not a bad parent if you need to do this, all mothers need a break, so just take five and relax, then you can go back to your baby with a clear mind.

Potty Training

toilet trainingYou’re little on is growing so fast, before you know it they’re awake more throughout the day and then comes the crawling and walking. Once you’ve jumped over all those hurdles you may start to wonder how soon can you start the potty training.

There is a lot of differing advice by baby experts about how old the child should be before you start potty training, and each person has their own tricks and lessons on how to do it, but in the end you will find that your child is an individual and will do things at their own pace.

Even if you find yourself ready to start, doesn’t mean that your child is. Even age doesn’t mean that they’re ready to start. One thing you will find out soon enough is unless you and your child are on the same page it will be a long and frustrating journey.

Look for the signs that your child is ready. It may begin with a curiosity about the toilet. They’ll ask questions about your use, and if they’re in daycare they will see the other children using it and may start to feel ready watching their friends use the potty.

If your child is aware of their bowel movements and informs you of their diaper status this is another sign that they are ready. Children need to have language to be able to tell you what’s going on, otherwise you’ll just be running behind them checking their diaper.

Potty training takes time and accidents are going to happen. Don’t get discouraged and don’t discourage your little one, they’re doing the best they can. Some children have fears about the toilet. For some going pee is easier than doing a number two. And sometimes the child thinks they’re ready when in fact they are not. But no worries, nobody stays in diapers forever.

If I had to pick an age I would say 3 year sold is a good time to start. At this age children are more aware of their bodies, and have developed a language that you can understand. These are important because if your child is telling you they need to use the toilet and you can’t understand them, then they will get frustrated with you.

Always make a big deal of them on the potty. Give them treats and make them feel special and loved. This is positive reinforcement and means you are more likely to have repeated success at potty training then if there is stress.

Sometimes transitioning from diapers to training pants encourages the children, and makes them feel like a ‘big’ kid, buying underwear can be helpful too.

Just remember that some kids will be easy to train and others will take more time, but in the end it will all work out.

Postpartum Depression and Depression During Pregnancy

Postpartum DepressionPostpartum depression is more common than you might think. The depression can onset before the baby is even born. This can manifest as crying without reason, depression or extreme low feeling, guilty thoughts or thoughts of worthlessness or hopelessness, restlessness, lack of control or energy, difficulty concentrating or disorganized thoughts, feelings of inadequacy, changes in sleep or appetite, withdrawing from people around you, thoughts of suicide or of hurting others.

According to the Canadian Public Health Agency these feelings are most common in the first trimester and third trimester. This is when your body is doing the most changing hormonally and physically. The reason the second trimester is usually more easy is that your body has adjusted to all the changes and the baby’s movement. However, women who talk about having these feelings during this stage are more likely to get treatment and be diagnosed quickly because depression is rare during the second trimester.

There are a few factors at play in the depression and those are genetic predisposition, were depressed during their teen years, or if the pregnancy is unwanted. Isolation and lack of support can also cause a pregnant woman to feel depressed, as well as spousal abuse and drug or alcohol abuse. Sometimes the pregnancy itself can cause a depressive episode.

If a woman does not seek help for her pregnancy depression she is more likely to suffer from severe postpartum depression. In order to maintain your mental well being during pregnancy the Public Health of Canada suggests that you eat well and balanced meals and snacks, maintain a regular sleep/wake pattern, get plenty of exercise, avoid alcohol and drugs, and use stress management exercises such as yoga, relaxation exercises and time management skills training.

If you find you have these feelings during your pregnancy you should be discussing them with your physician. Tell your doctor how strong the feelings are, how often you feel this way, if your depressed thoughts are interfering in your life, and if you’ve had any suicidal thoughts or feelings of hopelessness.

Women who do seek treatment for depression during pregnancy do improve. They are better able to care for themselves and their babies. Opening up about depression can empower the woman and help her find meaningful relationships in her life.

Women who suffer from postpartum depression are different from women who experience the baby blues. Baby blues are usually mood swings that go between joyful one minute and crying the next. These feelings are due to hormones and usually disappear within 10 days of delivery. Postpartum depression can act out the symptoms above, but also include: loss of pleasure in life and/or the baby, scary thoughts about harming your baby, anxiety or panic attacks, and excessive worry about your baby’s health.

Postpartum depression is an individual disease in that the symptoms can be more severe in some women and less severe in others. Postpartum depression can affect 10-15% of mothers and begin anywhere between the second week after the child’s birth to the sixth month afterward. This condition is experienced more often by women who have a history of depression, but can be effectively treated by doctors, medication and support groups.

Women who experienced postpartum depression are more likely to experience it again during their next pregnancy. In order to get well you must tell your doctor how your feeling and your mental state. Once you are placed on a treatment course do not alter it without consent from your treatment provider. Get involved in a support group and don’t add to your stress level, only take on tasks you know you can do.

Pay attention to the warning signs and seek help, don’t wait for it to get better on its own. Women are more likely to seek help when they know there is support in their community, so if you know someone who’s suffering from this disease help them connect with the help they need. Get them educated so they can become empowered.

Here are some links for help in Canada:

Canadian Mental Health Association
Go Green Baby in Kingston Ontario
Leeds, Grenville and Lanark County District Health Unit
Kingston Ontario Mental Health Professionals

Washable Diapers 101

DiapersHaving a baby can make you more environmentally conscious. Your new consciousness might even start with a decision to use washable diapers. Here are some tips to help you keep that environmentally friendly spirit alive.

The Parenting By Nature site suggests that you begin your washable diaper journey by deciding what you want from your cloth diaper experience and then go from there. There are many places to buy washable diapers from, but to buy the amount of diapers you will need to cloth your baby from infant to toddlerhood can be expensive depending on the frequency you plan on using a cloth diaper system.

For families who want to use cloth diapers only part of the time you may only need to buy as many as 10 cloth diapers. If you want to go whole hog and only use cloth diapers you will need to by upwards of 30. These numbers are rough estimates and not exact, some people can do with less and some people may find they need more.

In any case you need to have a system in place for washing the dirty diapers. you should have a diaper pail ready to receive the soiled diapers, a wet pail is not recommended as the mess that could potentially happen. An open air pail is best for diapers to stop odours and allow diapers to breathe. Always separate the insert from the liners, but you can place them in the same pail.

Once a load of soiled diapers are ready to be washed, start off by doing a cold pre-wash without any detergent. Once that has been completed now do a hot regular wash with the highest amount of water and agitation your machine allows with a couple of tablespoons of detergent. Afterward do a cold rinse cycle, a second one may be necessary. Then lastly you can do a medium dry cycle or hang to dry. You should wash the diapers every other day or when you have a load of 20 diapers to do.

When washing these diapers don’t use a lot of detergent and never use bleach. Additionally don’t use fabric softener or dryer sheets with cloth diapers, and only use creams on your baby when you are using a liner.

Here are some websites that have additional information and sell cloth diapers as well.

Cotton Babies
Kid A Log

Best Western Fireside Inn – Just one of Many Kingston Ontario Hotels that’s Worth Staying

How does a short weekend vacation for free sound to you? One of the best Kingston Ontario hotels, the Best Western Fireside Inn, is having a Fall Contest Giveaway. The lucky winner gets to enjoy a romantic overnight stay for two in a King-size fireplace-guest room, cocktails and specialty coffee at Tom’s Place, dinner at Bistro Stefan and a magnificent breakfast the next day in the comfort of their own fireplace room.

Again this amazing offer is all for free.

Are you wondering how to join? Act now while you can, since the Fall Contest is at its last week. If you want to learn more about the contest’s details, just visit their website at http://www.bestwestern.kingston.on.ca/

To join the contest, all you have to do is subscribe to their mailing list and just like that, you now stand a chance of winning this excellent getaway for you and your special someone on one of the nicest Kingston Ontario hotels.

Once again, up for grabs is an overnight stay at one of their Fireplace guest rooms, a free dinner and breakfast the next day and last but not least a complimentary bottle of champagne and strawberries. Does that sound romantic enough?

Now if you’re wondering about the quality of the rooms, here’s a sneak peek.

Rooms in the Best Western Fireside Inn are furnished in fine oak & pine with a gas fireplace that exudes warmth and romance. Inside are bathrooms outfitted with elegant ceramic tiles and marble that include unique European double showerheads, backlit make-up mirrors and pedestal sinks. Each room comes with a 37″ Flat Screen TV, free high-speed wireless Internet access, an electronic safe, complimentary in room coffee, an iron and ironing board, and an un-stocked mini fridge.

So, what are you waiting for? Join their contest while you still can! They’ll be announcing the winner on their website on the second week of November so keep your eyes peeled for updates and the like!